If I Am Who My Friends Are, Am I The Person I Want To Be?

I've had few interesting days last week where I was able to reconnect with old friends. Friends that I haven't seen in, well...decades. First I had lunch with a former colleague that I worked with back in 2000 - during the dot.com era. Ironically we worked at a company called Startups.com. And like the dot.com era, that company didn't last long. Over the years we sporadically kept in touch through email but not much else. A few weeks ago he contacted me through LinkedIn and we discovered that we were located just a town apart. We finally met up for the first time in 12 1/2 years. I really enjoyed catching up and sharing what direction our careers have taken.

Over the weekend I was able to spend some time with friends visiting from out-of-town. We lived on the same floor in the dorms during our freshman year of college.

I don't get to see these girls very often and it was so much fun to spend the day together. Of course reminiscing about the past was so much fun, but what I loved even more was discovering how strong, loving and confident they've become.

I walked away from both reunions feeling thankful to be able to call such wonderful people my friends. At the same time I was little sad that I hadn't made the effort stay in closer touch over the years. There's so much I could have learned from each one of them.

The experience reminded me of this article I read a couple of months ago.

If I am who my friends are, am I the person I want to be?

I reread the post and asked myself, "When I take inventory of which friends I spend my time with can I say that it was time well spent?"

Are they people who support and influence me for good? Or do they have a negative energy that makes me be a person I don't want to be?

I feel fairly confident in saying that right now my time is spent with people who I admire and aspire to be like.

People who are:

+ Dependable - they follow through on their commitments + Uplifting - they celebrate each others' successes without jealousy or envy + Fun - they are joyful and exude positivity

I am so grateful for these relationships that teach and inspire me to be better. (and I know I have a loooong way to go....)

Amidst the daily "busy-ness" that we call life, it truly is important to invest the time and energy with the people who's attitudes and energy brings us joy and inspiration.

After all, isn't that what life is all about?