"What Can Be Done?"

{Disclaimer: Normally I do not write posts like this one. These kinds of thoughts are usually saved for my journal and not shared on the blog. Usually tragic events shock me, but the Sandy Hook tragedy moved me to tears over and over again. I'm not even sure if this makes any sense, but these are the burning thoughts poured out of my heart and found it's way to "paper."}

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"Life isn't about finding yourself, it's about creating yourself"

+ Look in the mirror - do you like what you see?

+ Do you like the person you've become?

+ Are you where you want to be?

+ Are you content?

+ If "no" - what are you doing about it?

You have the power to reinvent yourself. To change your answers to "yes."

What Are You Waiting For?
What Are You Waiting For?

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Be the person you want to be.

Do the things you always said that you wanted to do but never got around to doing.

What are you waiting for?

We've all been reminded over and over again that time is precious. It's time to stop wishing and complaining, but start doing.

I wrote this to myself in my journal last Friday and it's essentially all I've been able to think about since.

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A very good friend shared this article with me. I'm sure you've seen it, it's gone viral.

My friend rhetorically asked, "What can be done?"

I think this is a question that we've all asked ourselves.

What can "we" as regular people do?

Brainstorming:

+ We can be kind to strangers.

+ We can say "please" and "thank you" - and mean it.

+ We can smile. Sometimes that all it takes to make someone else's day.

+ We can love one another. We can express love and appreciation for each other.

+ We can ask each other how things are going and be truly interested in their response.

+ We can serve, have compassion for, and give unselfishly to others.

+ We can love ourselves and treat ourselves with the same kindness and respect that we treat others with.

+ We can recognize our own self-worth. We can stop wasting our time on things and people that are toxic and bring us down.

+ We can stop complaining and take responsibility for our own circumstances. We can - and have to - do what we need to do to make ourselves happy - whatever that may be for each individual.

Maybe that's "what can be done." We can listen to each other’s and recognize cries for help before it's even asked for. We can support and provide honest feedback -- and not be enablers (when the situation warrants).

We can do what we can to help a person "get to a better, happier place."

Life is hard, but having a solid foundation of support can make it so much better.

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I have spoken openly about seeing a therapist. I have regular check-ins every 4-8 weeks. I cannot emphasize how tremendously helpful it's been in helping me deal with regular every day situations that sometimes feel difficult and overwhelming.

Having an impartial perspective has helped me build self-awareness, and has helped me to understand who I am. And like I wrote above - it continues to teach me to take responsibility for my circumstances, do something about it, and not blame others for it.

Perspective is a gift. Now that I am more aware, I can clearly see so many others struggling. So much unhappiness despite "normal" appearances. I think this world could be a lot happier if more people had someone, whether it is a therapist or someone else, to talk to. And not feel ashamed or embarrassed to do so.